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Monday, September 20, 2010

mellow? or meltdown?

Bryn used to be a fairly mellow child.  Not much would cause a meltdown.  She would do what she was asked to do without throwing a fit.  She would fall asleep at night without much effort.  I notice a lot more little things like asking her to set the table now, cause meltdowns.  It is also increasingly hard to get her to sleep at night.  She used to let us out of the room willingly, now she begs us to stay, cries and gets up a lot.  She is also a lot more likely to talk back now.  If I ask her to do something, she will scream, "No" in my face.  She never used to do this.  I don't know if it's the prozac causing these changes or the new stress of being at school for 7 hours a day.  It seems I notice it less on the weekends, but I can't be sure yet.

The doctor is going to want to increase her medication, and I am not sure how I feel about that.  I have read a lot of kids don't do well on the higher doses.   Did she just feel to anxious to do all these things before?  Now with the power of Prozac, she is going to be a terror.  What a trade off.  I feel like I have to start all over training her on what is acceptable as if she were two.  It's very strange and confusing.

I am considering some "Super Nanny" type system where she earns tokens for good behaviors and gets tokens taken away for undesirable ones.  I have no idea how this will go.  My gut is telling me, it will cause a lot more tantrums in the beginning.  I have no idea if I should be doing this or not. I feel like she is getting away with a lot of things these days that I would have never put up with in the past.  Her 10 year old sister has seemed pretty miserable lately too.  She is rarely happy at home, stays in her room a lot and is very short tempered.  She seems to be discouraging Bryn more now than ever.  We need to fight this as a team and with a united plan, but I don't know how to get everyone on the same page.

The word page reminded me.  I have a little free time, I need to get out the book, "Helping your Child with Selective Mutism" and start reading.  I need help!  I feel clueless, inept, frustrated, sad, and confused as usual.

1 comment:

  1. I find that as a child begins to speak more openly they have more trouble regulating their feelings and behavior. Because they never had the experience of using their language to regulate their behavior they have to learn to do that now. I wrote about this in my article "Selective Mutism & Self-Regulation". I'm happy to send you a reprint to share with your child's therapist as well. All the best,